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My day was so sad today. My heart felt heavy all day, and to top it off, when it started raining, I realized the rain made me happy. I didn’t bother finding shade and let it drench me completely.

I love rain in a way that most people don’t. When it rains, my first thought is, OMG, let’s go out! That’s exactly what happened tonight, on an already terrible day. Everything was going horribly wrong, overstimulating me and leaving me mentally numb.

It started with a voiceover recording, after which I couldn’t get a cab for what felt like forever. I was stranded in the middle of Majeedi Magu, sweating and dying of embarrassment from all the rejection. Every cab I tried to hail ignored me.

Finally, after what felt like ages, I managed to get one. The driver even stopped at my house so I could run in and pee before heading to Hulhumalé for another work thing. That tiny act of kindness—bare minimum, really—felt like a lifeline. It touched my soul in ways I didn’t expect.

Later, after my work thing, it started raining lightly. I thought I could find some shade under a tree, so I stepped out and kept walking. But the tree didn’t help, and soon I was completely soaked. The place I wanted to eat at was about a block away from the park I was in, but the park itself was huge. So I walked, in heavy rain, drenched to the bone. I must’ve looked miserable, but somehow, it made me happy.

Two women offered to share their umbrella with me, and it warmed my heart. I refused, of course, but the gesture meant the world to me.

The streak of things going wrong continued. I finally reached the restaurant I’d been thinking about all day. Since my cards were expired, I asked if they accepted transfers. They said no. Just like that, I had to walk out and sit outside, feeling wet, sad, miserable, and hopeless. No cab would take me because I was soaked, and it was still drizzling. I didn’t have anyone I could call to pick me up. I think I cried a little.

Then, one of the servers came out and told me to come in—they would make an exception for me. My heart leapt, like a child seeing candy. I thanked him and went inside.

I’d been craving steak all week, and they were one of the few places that served it. I ordered so much—I was sad. The meal was incredible, even though I cried here and there. It was just one of those days. But I loved the food.

Finally, when it was time to pay, I got the bill with a note saying it had already been paid by someone. He’d left his number in case I wanted to thank him. I couldn’t believe it. I’d been feeling lonely and uncared for all day, and a stranger—someone I’ll probably never see again—did that for me.

Most people might find it creepy, but for someone who hasn’t been loved properly, it felt like magic. It honestly made my day. It gave me hope that the universe puts me where I need to be at the right time so it can work its wonders.

That was my day—sad and rainy, but damn, I loved the rain. When I came home, it was still raining. I got wet again just getting inside. Once in my room, I changed out of my wet clothes, lit a candle, dried my hair, crawled into bed, and started watching F Is for Family until I passed out.

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Some days, I don’t know how to be stronger, braver, or louder.

I feel guilty when I break down in front of people. I question whether I’m doing it for their attention or if I truly feel sad. Even when I’m physically and mentally falling apart, I still question if it’s real at all.

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How much damage must you have endured to become reluctant to ask for what’s rightfully yours?

Asking for things has never been my thing. It’s not that I don’t want things—I do. But over time, I’ve convinced myself that I don’t. I’ve never really gotten the things I wanted, and that made me feel like a loser. So now, I just don’t ask.

Growing up, my parents didn’t really get me anything I asked for. They led me to believe I had to earn it. And even though I performed so well in school, I never quite earned it in their eyes. Maybe they couldn’t afford it, or maybe they didn’t want to. Either way, it shaped me.

The truth is, I do want things—so many things. But I don’t even buy them for myself because I feel like there will always be more important things to prioritize.

I’ve received gifts before, things I didn’t ask for and didn’t think I wanted, but I ended up loving them. That made me realize it’s not that I don’t want things. It’s that I don’t want to break my own heart by wanting things I might never afford or by asking for something I may never get.

I can’t even find the courage to ask for what’s mine. That’s just who I am.

Anyway, I passed all my modules—yay! I want someone to be ecstatic for me, over the moon. I know my thesis is still pending, but this in itself is huge for me. And the one person I was excited enough to share this with didn’t even acknowledge it.

That broke my heart.

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Lord knows I’ve been in love before. I’ve cried on the mat, tears streaming down my face, fully distraught, praying for callbacks and text messages, praying they’d find love in their hearts for me as I had for them. So why is it that, after all that, this time feels like I’m in love for the very first time?

I never tire of his presence. I’ve been in love before, but I’ve never met someone whom I didn’t need time to recharge away from. Usually, after a few days, I’d need to come home and have time to myself, but with him, it feels like he’s a part of me. Being with him is as enjoyable as my own company, if not better. Oh, I think—they call this love?

We fight, but he forgets it quickly. My attitude blows over, and I surrender to his love. I can’t even stay mad at him. I care for him so deeply that I understand him to his core. Every step he takes, even if in the wrong direction sometimes, I understand where his heart comes from. Before he loved me, before all of this, he was human first, and I’m in love with all his flaws, just as he loves mine. He actually said it to me one day, and I thought—that’s wonderful.

There’s little I wouldn’t do for this man. He’s the exception to every rule.

Now, am I worried I might end up hurt? Terrified, to be honest. But sometimes I sit back and think, this moment is worth it. I’ve found little happiness in this world, and he makes me immensely happy. That’s more valuable than anything.

And how funny is it, that it took me forever to feel sure about people, about commitment, to feel certain I would love them every day—until I met him. With everyone else, I always wondered, even if I felt deeply for them in the moment, if I’d still love them the next day. Rarely did I find the faith in myself that I would, and often, I lied to myself and struggled through days when I didn’t feel the same way. I accepted that this is how relationships worked—that you didn’t love them every day, that some days you pretend. I was always in awe of the couples who made their relationships last through years, as mine barely lasted one.

But with him, I can’t imagine a day when I won’t love him. It just happened, without much effort. Maybe that’s what falling in love really is—one day you just fall, and everything is different. All the rules and expectations you had of love crumble because it’s nothing like you thought it would be; it’s better. In a way you can’t quite describe—it’s just better. And I pray I never lose this love.

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Holding you in my arms feels like I’m holding my whole world—so fragile, so precious. I realize I’ve never tried hard enough in any of my relationships, but with you, I surrender.

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I’ve thought this before, and now I’m more certain of it than ever.

My father loved other women more than he loved my mother, and perhaps, in a psychologically twisted fate, I’ve made it my destiny to forever be the ‘other woman.’

Maybe it’s my way of trying to feel closer to the love I never received from my father, hoping someone will love me the way he loved those other women, instead of my mom.

What a fate.

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Something I love so much about you is that when you notice I’m about to fall off a mental cliff (spiral), you just recklessly distract me out of it by any means. I hate it, but it works. You pull me back, and just like that, the cliff disappears, and I no longer want to jump.

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